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Mothers and Sons, some top tips which might help with testosterone related issues

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First of all, the bit that worries us most: the effect on our sons of not living with their Dad...Research is split on the impact on young boys of being separated from their fathers. One school of thought suggests that when boys lose contact with their fathers at a young age, it can contribute to delinquency, emotional and behavioural disturbances and poor academic performance. Another line of researchsuggests that where a child had grown up in a family environment with a high level of conflict between the parents, these children went on to develop both emotional and behavioural problems, and had difficulties in establishing secure relationships. So what do we take out from this?

  • That loosing contact with a father is to be avoided at all costs if we are to do the best for our sons. And in case we needed anymore persuading than the research quoted earlier, here it is: Even children who have been fathered in the most horrendous circumstances (for example, as a result of rape) want to know and meet their Dad. This is extreme, but it does show that however bad YOU might think their Dad is, the children will still want him and need to know him and about him.
  • That arguments and fights between us and our ex’s in front of the children are scarring our children and not helping them.

    Don’t forget: “A child needs a secure base from which to explore the world“.

    BOYS’ NEEDS
    It is important to acknowledge that boys have some needs that are distinctly different from girls, and that these differences are in their genes…

    Rough-and-tumble.
    How many times have you held your head in your hands as you try to distract your son from bouncing off the walls and his brothers and sisters by reading a good book? Give up! It’s a thankless task as it’s in his genes. He loves it and, as one expert believes, he needs it as rough-and-tumble helps boys to develop socially and to overcome their genetic tendency towards hyperactivity. I was relieved to hear that it was a behaviour I could just let happen rather than try to stop!

    School.
    Have you ever dreaded seeing the teacher to hear how Johnny just wouldn’t sit still or concentrate etc etc? Me too! I was relieved to learn that part of this is also genetic: In general, the development of boys’ brains and overall nervous systems is delayed compared to girls. And since the brain affects cognitive development, attention and emotional regulation, this impacts a boy’s overall “school readiness,

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